Disclaimer: I’m an idiot. I don’t claim to know it all or have an answer for every problem in life. This post is meant to celebrate the people who contributed my development, not indict anyone. Get offended by the claims about the value of monogamy or, better yet, don’t.
Next week, my wife and I will have been married for 8 years. That’s right, we’ve been together for two presidential terms or a doctor’s collegiate education. I’m a fan! Life for me has been awesome with a partner. We’re raising four awesome kids and dreaming big. As a single dude, I was apt to wander a bit. Marriage has focused and anchored me; that’s good. Which brings me to my topic.
Currently, I am sitting at a desk in Florida, preparing to celebrate the 60th anniversary of my grandparents. That’s right, my grandparents have been married for the period of the time it takes for some people to become grandparents. In a time when it can be hard to focus on something for 60 seconds, it’s a quite an accomplishment that a couple of people can stay together that long. Three kids, seven grandkids, and four great-grandchildren later, there’s a legacy of commitment and love worth recognizing. Today, my grandmother read books and played Chinese checkers with my son. Also, one of my other sons and daughter swam with their grandfather. It really is a beautiful thing to behold, the older generation sharing it’s life with the younger. There’s something fundamentally worthy about that.
It’s easy to find people shouting down patriarchy, hurling insults at monogamy, and mocking marriage. I choose to ignore that. Matriarchy, polygamy, and polyamory are not the “Silver Bullet” for life’s problems; neither is Coor’s Light or a thermometer. Certainly, men and women are equals. Knowing a man and woman that love each other for 60 years teaches me that is true. Give and take is the way of marriage. So is commitment and grace.
Anyway, I’m sitting at a desk, which is attributed to a legacy. I’m proud to be a part of it. Whoever you’re with, love ’em, care for them, and make it a long-term gig. Someday, you might have a grandkid writing a post like this. Ain’t it cool?